Mixed Up With Me

Sallie (00:17)
Hello and welcome to Twin Study After Dark. I’m your host Sally. And I’m your other host Katie. Welcome in everyone. It is about to be summertime season. Woohoo! Bikinis! Rip off your clothes. Naked bodies. We were waiting for it. Woo! Show that skin, baby. Don’t you think everybody just looks better with less clothing on?

Well, that’s my debatable topic. okay. It’s like you read my mind. Twins or something. Twins. Yep. So my debatable topic today is, you know, we’re both 35 now. I guess one would say we’re not spring chickens anymore. Or however you say it. What is that phrase? Yeah. And I’ve been hearing a lot of talk from the mamas in the hood about bathing suits.

just the process of buying one that’s more mom appropriate. And I wanted to debate the topic. As you get older, does it become more unappropriate to show skin? Because I know a lot of people alter what they wear based on their age or how people might perceive them. I remember I was talking to one of your friends.

probably like two or three years ago. And I was like, I got a thong bikini because I’m like, I think I was said I like I’m 30 now and I feel like this is the last chance I can wear it. And she was like, Why would it be your last chance to wear it? Like you can still wear thong bikinis. And this was somebody who didn’t have any kids at the time. And I think a couple years ago, I would have said, my style would have changed with kids. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, because you always see.

that mom at the beach that’s wearing a banging suit. She looks fucking amazing. And she has her butt out and like the kids are running around. And I just want to think like, do you think that there’s an age limit for these things? Like clothing wise? I that’s my debate. Yeah, I’m trying to think because I know I’ve been the type of person that have has thought like, in this.

setting, I’m going to wear something with more coverage because I feel like it’s more appropriate. And I hate to even admit that because I so try to be that person that does not care what the general public thinks. And like that’s against everything I believe in to like change what I really want to wear because I think that something else might be more suitable for other people observing. you’re changing it based on the other’s judgment. The other’s judgment. Yeah.

But there has been times if I know it’s going to be an event where there might be colleagues there or if there’s an event where when I go to honestly like a nicer resort, I’ll pick an outfit that has more coverage. Really? Because I feel like if I show more, I’m going to get judged. Interesting. Isn’t that weird? Yeah. I mean, I think our mom always told us growing up, she was like, in the lobby, you have to put clothes on.

So even though I don’t think that’s a true rule at some resorts because like they expect people to be in bathing suits, like laying out. But in my mind, I have mom in the back of my head saying, you need to put clothes on before you go in the lobby. And like that’s probably not even a rule. It probably was ingrained in us, but I honestly, I’ve been places where there’s nude beaches and I just feel like those are my people. Like I think less is better. I personally feel comfortable. But in…

society in this society, the United States of America, I have closed myself more. So for all those people judging, just know that I’m thinking about putting clothes on because of all of you. Really though? Okay. So it’s interesting because I remember there was a time after you had your son where you were intentional about putting like high -waisted bikinis on because like you were… Stretch marks. Yeah. You were like embarrassed by your body. And…

I think that’s why a lot of women cover up more. I don’t know if it’s because they necessarily are they thinking like this is more appropriate or they more like this is what I’m comfortable in. Like show me. I think I do think that as you get older, comfort becomes more desirable. Like you’re not going to wear something just because you look bangin. You’re gonna I you want to be comfortable. So I bought like a body suit that it’s literally just like a top.

and it’s I bought it because it was on TikTok and it’s supposed to really like suck you in. These are the things girls go through guys. But it’s so uncomfortable to wear that I’ve actually never worn it and it does look bangin but I can’t like think of a time that’s like worth it. When are my no I had all like worth it to wear it. Yeah, I have a one piece bodysuit that I wore to work the other day but the zipper is up.

in the back behind my neck. Yeah. And so for me to reach behind and get it down to go to the bathroom, I had to go ask my intern to help me. Yeah, well, that’s a whole nother conversation. Just women’s clothing in general. Like, it’s just difficult. It’s so not functional. But like in terms of like, do you judge other women when they’re wearing certain outfits that you’re like, because I’ve been in groups of women and I hate

to even admit this. Where they’re judging. Where adult -ass women watch another girl walk by and they say, wow, her shorts are way too short or something like that. I think it’s just, it’s unfortunately common practice where people love people watching. I know people that have, we’ve laughed about the fact that they will sit downtown and just watch people come home from the bars at night because it’s entertainment for them. Yeah. Again,

I just don’t I know I’ve been probably judged that I really, really feel like uncomfortable saying anything about another person. Okay, so I was actually gonna say that I think whenever I’m with a group of women and they make a comment about what somebody else is wearing, it truly actually the person I’m judging is the person making the comment. I don’t give a shit what other people wear like honestly, because lots of times it’s like,

Heavier girl or something and she’s wearing short shorts or something like like and then they make a comment or even if it’s who’s making that comment That’s fucked up. That’s what that’s so funny. What I’m doing is looking at the person be like you’re fucking off Yeah, thank God you’re confident. Yeah power to you No, so that’s the thing when I’m with people and they make comments about other people what they’re wearing I’m just like that actually makes me judge you and not them. Yeah, I truly

I want to be in the mindset that literally bodies are beautiful. If you it’s unfortunate, you want to show skin? Yeah, these do. And honestly, if you feel good in your skin, to wear whatever you want. I’m I’m honestly in awe of you. That is awesome. I am I commend that and I don’t think it’s asking for attention. I don’t think it’s inappropriate. I think that we have been trained.

in society to say that that is inappropriate, but it’s not. It’s like you have a body and you’re wearing clothes. Like that’s great. Like whatever. I think the unfortunate part is that women’s bodies have become so sexualized. Like that to me is unfortunate, although I think we’re beautiful and sexy, but like you should be able to show or wear whatever you want, show as much skin or wear whatever you want and it be a form of self -expression and not.

be viewed as something that’s inappropriate or especially when it comes to age, like the older you get, you shouldn’t be wearing certain things. I just don’t agree. I do think, I do feel though, in contrast, when a young child is wearing maybe more exposed, exposing clothing, I do feel concerned because unfortunately again in our society,

children are sexualized and I feel worried not because the child’s doing anything wrong but because the minds of adults is probably maybe doing something wrong. okay. Yeah. See, I agree with you on that but it’s like not even coming from a judgmental place but more of like a protection. It’s a protective. Yeah. Protect yourself especially for like those…

teenage girls, you know, because older men are looking at you for children too. I mean, yeah, I know it’s pretty sad. But that’s like what the world we live in. Like in contrast to that, I want to say that and I know I’ve shared this on a podcast that I don’t think ever aired so I can share it again. But I know growing up I our mom was super self conscious of her body. So we grew up pretty self conscious of our bodies. I remember being really uncomfortable to even try like in a bit.

try to get in a bikini. yeah, I know, right? I had a long time where I just would wear one piece and I had a bangin’ body, great body, but I wouldn’t wear one because I was so uncomfortable. Probably the best body you’ll ever have was never – Right, like teenagers. And I remember the first time I wore two piece, I was just so uncomfortable. I was like covering my stomach and I promised myself back when I was a kid, I was like, when I raise my kids, I want to make confident girls. And I remember like saying to myself,

because I remember noticing how uncomfortable I was when I was on a date and he brought me out on a boat. Yeah, and I was so uncomfortable in my body. I couldn’t even enjoy the whole time on the boat. Yeah. And I just my God. I’ve been the girl that was uncomfortable in shorts. Okay, so like, yeah, yeah, right. So anyway, I just promised myself I’m not gonna raise those two girls. So I remember saying I’m gonna raise girls that can wear bikinis as skimpy as they want. And they’re gonna think they look like

golden. Like they can spend a whole day on a boat and just have fun. Yeah, just enjoy. You know, like the boys get to do like the boys just get to go out and water ski and not think about what we bought their shirts. Yeah. So I remember thinking that and so when you say, I don’t like when girls were little girls were like skimpy outfits. I mean, obviously, I’m not saying I don’t like it. I get scared. Yes, of course. Because men are creepers. And I guess there’s women. People are creeps. Right? Yeah. But I just do want to like,

be cautious not to make them so insecure where they don’t feel comfortable sharing any skin because that’s bad too. Like I don’t write you know what I mean? Like I don’t want them to feel so uncomfortable in themselves that they like were like us because it took me honestly until like I was adult to feel comfortable in a bathing suit. Truly. I have how we were raised. It’s so true. Yeah, I agree with that. And I remember watching girls like run around on the beach having fun playing soccer in a bikini and like

They looked so like effortlessly happy and I couldn’t get there because I just was so insecure. It’s such a shame. Yeah. I remember like even just we got comfortable at soccer camp, like taking our shirt off and like being in a sports bra. Exactly. But like it took us going to a camp during the summer away where everybody’s just playing the same sport. Yeah. To take off our shirt with a sports bra on whenever we’d play because we grew up playing soccer.

And sometimes it’d be boys and girls and they’d say shirts for skins. And we again, had beautiful bodies. But I remember being like, I’ll be a shirt. Like, I’ll be sure like I couldn’t even be in a sports bra. Right? Yeah. So that’s why I think I am just the biggest advocate. Show your skin. It is beautiful. It is a body. Yes, it has stretch marks. Yes, it has cellulite. All freaking bodies do. I love I’m an advocate for showing your skin. The content creators.

that now we have on Instagram and Tik Tok, there are some that are Bozzy body positive and they, they’re showing like the quote unquote flaws in their body per society standards. And I just think they’re just angels on this earth because it is so important to show, you know, an unedited photo and, or your, your tummy when it’s not tucked away or your boobs when they’re

sagging a little bit low and the partners out there that are like, I love stretch marks. I love those insecure, I love imperfections type of thing. Thank you because it’s just real. That’s real life. I give love to the athletes that are just gym people where they’re at the gym every second of the day.

Your bodies are fucking beautiful and hard as rocks and great. Wonderful. Show them. But if you have a normal ass body with like a flabby stomach or like some cellulite, show it girl. Like I don’t fucking care. And if it’s 90 fucking degrees out, I hope you’re not in jeans. Like wear your shorts. Because we live in Florida and you’ll see girls that are so insecure. They’ll be in like winter clothing and it’s like, it’s a hundred degrees out. So do you think that people become more

critical of a person when they become a parent or when they get older, you know, like, yeah, I think, I don’t know, it’s hard to say because we surround ourselves with a really good group of women. Yeah. But and I don’t think that any of them are super judgmental. But I do think that there’s certain crowds that are a little bit more conservative. If you ever go through, I don’t know if anybody is.

on here listing that is part of like a mom group that’s just like a widespread mom group, but like a Facebook mom group or something. You will see some of the most judgmental posts ever, and it made me terrified to be a mom. I was like, moms are the most judgmental group I’ve ever, you’d think they’d be the most accepting. Yeah. But like everything you read on there, it’s horrific. And that’s why I feel so, so blessed.

I hate that word, but I feel so lucky that we are in the neighborhood where you’re in with the moms were in there So they’re all so cool and down to earth and that’s unusual That’s why our neighborhood is bomb if anybody wants to move here move over here. It’s also like yeah They just make you feel like safe to be yourself Yeah, and I yeah, I think that honestly our neighborhood the neighbors the ladies and this neighborhood are like magical because they’re all just so kind and I wonder if that speaks to like where we’re headed hopefully with like

progress. People are getting more comfortable just being themselves. Yeah. And accepting people for being themselves. Yeah. So anyway, so I guess the debatable topic again. So like, do you think there’s an age limit on showing skin? I wish there wasn’t. That’s my answer. My phone is being crazy. So if I start, I don’t, I think society has created an age limit. I don’t know what that age would be because I think it’s actually getting

Like I do believe that when our parents grew up, when you turned 30, it was like this major event. Like they had houses and families and they had careers and now the generation, it’s taking us much longer to do what they did. Yeah. And so, but I also think in that way, somehow we’re preserving our youth longer. Like I don’t know how. Well, they say millennials are looking younger. Yeah, I agree.

I agree too. We’re both young as hell. But also, I don’t know. I don’t know what it is exactly, but I mean, we still get carted all the time. Well, okay, so Sally and myself, we don’t do any kind of Botox or filler or plastic surgery or whatever. And like we support whoever wants to do that, but we have not done that. But the fact that like, I do feel like still our generation, even without all those things, is still aging slower.

I think that’s an interesting thing to think about. I don’t understand it. I don’t get it at all. Maybe it’s just the style. Our parents. Well, they always do that. I like the before and afters of like mom hair and like young hair and how it looks like you’re aging. Yeah. But I don’t know what it is, but I think our age group is looking young. And I don’t know. I mean, mom jeans essentially came back in style. I know. Mom jeans were high -waisted jeans. I know. And they look great. And they look…

I mean, for girls, we love them. I don’t know if guys love them, but for girls, we love them. I remember when they first came back in style. One of my boyfriends at the time was like, I hate those high waisted jeans. They’re so gross. They make your butt look long. Yeah. Yeah. I remember they said that. Yeah. And the funny thing is, is that was before the peak of them. And now they’re just everywhere. That’s all you get. That’s all you get. Yeah. Is mom wasted jeans. I, yeah, I don’t know what it is, but I was watching a TikTok.

where they were talking about the movie Father of the Bride and he’s supposed to be like 40 something. And they made them look, they look so old in that movie. I’m sorry, I don’t know like the act, was it Diane Keaton and? Martin. No. Steve Martin. Steve Martin. Okay, don’t quote us on this. That is his name. Okay, but they looked so, they were supposed to be 40 something. And now I’m like looking at 40 year olds and I’m like.

They look like babies. Like we have so much life left. I know. Seriously. Like Bella twins. my God. I think have Larry. my. I’m like these people are bright. We’re almost there. But like all my 40 year old best friends look fucking amazing. Yeah. I don’t know what it is. I don’t know either. Yeah. So you don’t think there’s an age you need to stop wearing certain shit? No. And honestly, when I see an older woman wearing like.

outfits that look quote unquote young for her. Yeah. I love it. I do too. I’m like, yes, get it queen. I know I do too. Yeah. Yeah. I love it. So I love it. I don’t think you’ll ever I don’t think that you’re going to be judged necessarily by women. I do think men could maybe judge, but that’s just my outside perspective. My thing is like power to you. Like in everybody. It’s like wear whatever you feel comfortable with. Yeah. And if you

feel comfortable wearing a sexy ass outfit, please do because it inspires other people to do it. Or colors. Okay, so that’s another thing is I was raised, I feel like when I started my career in a very male dominated field, and it’s flipped since I’ve been in it, which is kind of a wild experience to observe. But when I first entered, it was very male dominated and everything I was doing was with

a lot of males around it. So at that time I felt like I needed to dress more manly and I never wore pink. I really didn’t wear much color. And now I’m like, what a disservice I must have done for women. Like if you’re a woman in corporate America or anywhere, if you want to wear a color, wear colorful clothes, patterns, frills, skirts.

I was shamed for wearing skirts at work. Yeah, I remember that. And I just feel like that’s part of the problem is like you should be able to dress. As long as in a workplace you have to be a little more professional, right? But as long as like you aren’t exposing too much within the workplace. But it goes the same way though. If you want to wear like boys clothes, because that’s what you feel comfortable with, do it. Then you get to wear that too. Do it. Yeah.

So like you used to say that I dressed like too manly sometimes. Yeah. Well, it’s probably because I was feeling like I had to dress manly and I wanted to dress girly. Yeah. And but I like like wearing like boyfriend jeans and a t -shirt sometimes. yeah. I like really dressing pretty like tomboyish. Like, yeah, people think I think that I’m the girly one and you’re the more tomboy, but it’s actually opposite. It’s the opposite. Yeah. Like, yeah, I like wearing like comfy.

clothes I guess and going out in like tennis shoes and I like like sequins and lace and she loves a good heel a heel yeah a good silky jammy I like yeah hop across my bedroom my silky jam yeah she and I’ll be like Katie why are you dressed like that I was like do you dress like that every night I go to bed and like ripped undies and as well go on girls trips together and I’ll have my little pajamas yeah and she’s like why are you wearing that I’m like cuz it’s

I feel good. Yeah, I was like, who are you trying to impress right now? Like talk about I’m being judgmental right now. No, but I’m just saying like I feel good when I’m in like girly clothes. And the fact that like anybody would have had to hinder their form of self -expression because they felt like they didn’t fit in somewhere makes me really sad. Yeah. And

Now, if you like it, girl, go buy it and put it on. Okay. So now in the workplace, because it’s flipping where there’s more women coming into the workplace. I think there’s more women graduating from college, not that college is going to be relevant forever. Who knows? But now I see so many girls wearing pink and pink pants. And maybe it’s like, it was before the Barbie movie, but the Barbie movie definitely helped. And I just love it because…

The best thing you can do as an individual is wear whatever you feel comfortable in because it allows other people to be themselves.

So do you think you’ve ever gotten like unwanted attention because you wear a certain thing? Like, you know how we said, we are pro wear whatever you want. Like show as much skin or little skin as you want. But like, have you ever worn something and where you’re like, this is giving me like attention I don’t really want? I mean, yeah. And I think that’s the concern. I think that’s where that fear, I really believe people’s judgments come from that fear of like,

assuming you’re going to get unwanted attention or because of an experience they had because that would happen to me when I was younger. I remember I would wear tank tops and they were like old Navy tank tops. They weren’t like super exposure tank tops. But like heaven forbid your shoulders are showing or like you have a larger chest. You got attention for the tank tops? No, I remember a woman saying like, Katie should.

maybe put more clothes on. What? And it was an old Navy tank top. that’s terrible. I know. And I’m like, now whenever I see a girl exposing her shoulders, I’m like, thank you. Free. I also am a free the nipple person, guys. So you’re lucky I wear a bra. Yeah, I am too. I once wear a bra. But also we live in Florida, so it’s always sweaty if you wear a bra. I want to say, though, a girl’s compliment to a girl when you’re wearing something. It’s the most

I was just talking to a friend about this. I know I asked about unwanted attention, but wanted attention, when you’re in the bathroom or when you’re in whatever and a girl gives you a compliment when you’re wearing something, it’s so much more powerful than when a guy gives you a compliment. It’s so true because the girl knows what you went through to look the way you’re looking or what you’re wearing. Totally. Where they’re like, girl, that looks great on you. I love that, or I love that, your hairstyle. I love your lashes. Whatever the hell they say.

You’re like, thank you. That’s so genuine. And it makes your day. My friend was actually just telling me a story where she went to go try on a dress because she has to go to a wedding. And she tried on one and she actually really liked it. But the mirrors were outside the dressing room. Yeah, she was like looking at herself in the dress. And just a random person she didn’t know girl was like, you look fab in that dress. But I actually have a dress from here that you’d look amazing in. I need you to try it on. She went and got her the fucking dress. Shut up.

wedding got her the fucking dress, made her try it on and it looked bomb. And so my friend was like, this was a stranger. Like she didn’t work there. She was just like, I have this dress at home and you’re going to look better than I look in it. Yeah. And then she ended up getting it. You know, that’s power. That is what I love. So when we were, I don’t want to share too much because we’re going back into your last question after this. Yeah. But when we went to, we went to a fallout boy concert and we went out prior to get dinner and

this very old couple, they were probably in their late 60s. yeah. They waved us down and they were like, my God, we were looking at you both and we just thought you were the most beautiful people we’d ever seen and it was so unwarranted and just – We didn’t like, it was so random. No, and whenever, cause we were dressed kind of similar and – We had fake lashes on. Whenever we had, whenever we dressed similar,

That’s like my ultimate like self -conscious self because I’m aware that I’m bigger than Sally and like the fact that they waved us down and told us that we just looked beautiful. That is again, just they were like the cutest heavenly people on this earth. Yeah. And I think that just like compliments and genuine, I guess it could be from a man, but usually it’s from a woman. It was like really genuine. Yeah. Because I, yeah, I remember.

I mean, there’s just so many instances where it just makes your day because you’re like, thank you. Or when women give each other like the courage to like, do something like just be proud of their body. Because I remember we went to a concert one time, and it was just so freaking hot. I was like 100 degrees. And we went with our friend to see an outdoor concert. And I like had sweat through my tank top. I was disgusting. And a girl in the bathroom, I was just like saying, I’m so gross. my gosh. And she’s like, girls just wear your like your bralette.

Like you look so banging in it like just wear the bra that and I was like really and she’s like girl It looks fucking hot. Yeah, I think like girls just giving each other just that and building each other up the girl You can do it like you look cute. Yeah, and it’s it’s awesome when girls do it. So I I try to consciously Do like whenever I see a girl looking cute or like anything. I’ll try to make a comment. Yeah

It means so freaking much. Like we are so insecure. Like please give us some comments. There was a moment though, there was a moment in time and this was probably a couple of years ago, but I was very actively thinking about that. And I was like, it’s kind of sad that I don’t think men receive compliments like that. And then so like I would start trying to like pay attention. And if somebody at work was wearing something, I’d be like,

You know, you look really nice today. Like men, they’re probably like, okay. I know, and it’s such a shame. I hope they didn’t think that, but I remember one of my best friends, her husband, were like a… Now I think in hindsight, he probably had an interview that day, but he was wearing… He was more suited up than usual. And I was like, you look really nice today. And I try… It’s just… It goes both ways. It should go both ways if we could only just understand as a species that they’re not going to take it.

like another way. And I knew he wouldn’t take it a certain way because he’s married to one of my best coworker friends. But like, I think just putting it out there, be more willing. Yeah, it’s actually the really sad thing to think about. Because guys aren’t like going up to each other being like, you look banging. Yeah, like, I love your shirt. Yeah, your muscles are really big today. But I do, I think it’s happening more now than it used to. And I just, I want all of that just to like keep happening. I saw a funny TikTok where a girl was like, if you want your life to just…

change like say like refer to your boss or a man in your life as like the big man like be like hey big man like she’s like seriously it changes everything like all of a sudden they’re like it’s like they take it as like a dopamine hit like they’re like you know like they’re like I’m the big man yeah like if you want like to get in with someone you have to be like hey big man what’s going on like when I call my dog like you’re such a good girl yeah it’s like big man daddy yeah

I So okay, so unwanted Do you the question was have you ever received unwarranted or unwanted and wanted attention because of something you’re wearing? I?

I think every girl would say yes. Yeah, for sure.

But I’m not gonna lie, even as a married woman. You’re like, this feels good. All women. Okay, so that’s the other thing. So do you think that it’s inappropriate when a person hits on you, but you’re in a relationship to like accept a drink or to flirt? Because sometimes, okay, sometimes as in all the times.

If my person, my partner is getting flirted with, I’m kind of like, no, you said you like that. I know, but I also like let them enjoy it. Like let them have this like get a free drink out of it. You know, like, I don’t know. I’m more relaxed about it. The thing to me is they’re coming home with me at night. I know. But like, I think that women are super perceptive. So if a woman is going up to your man because she’s into him,

What vibe is he sending out? Because I feel like my husband doesn’t send out any type of vibe. You know what I mean? Because women are perceptive. They know who’s with someone. I don’t think men know as well. I think men are like, see, they see a hot girl out of a bar, and they’re like, OK, there’s not a man around. I think I’m going to make my move. Have you ever felt like there’s a case where, and I’m using the term woman because I’m a woman, where they’re trying to.

see where they stack out next to you. Like if they can get his attention, then they feel like they’re equal or above you. I’m not even shitting you. I’ve never seen a woman hit on my husband. But like I said, he never goes out. He’s a homebody. No, but also I’m not kidding you. Like I don’t think he gives out that vibe. I think there has to be some element of like, I do think there has to be some inviting element or like he’s making eyes across the bar because.

Women don’t just go up to anybody. That’s true. Okay, I think that’s valid. So do you think it goes the other way around? Like when women get drinks offered to them, do you think that they’re giving out a vibe to get that? No, I think men are creepers and they’re literally looking at the bar and they’re being, who’s cute? Who’s cute? she’s cute. Let’s give her a… So do you think it’s more accepting for a woman to accept a drink than a man to accept a drink? That’s a damn… It seems like a double standard, but I think that…

I think that it’s better. I think it’s okay for a woman to accept a drink from a stranger. Well, obviously, don’t make sure it’s not roofied. But if it’s even better, we’ll get our partners free drinks, right? Just come back with a free drink for them. Yeah, but I, for whatever reason, don’t think it’s bad if a girl accepts a drink because it’s just a guy being a guy. If your man accepts a free drink, if Adam was out and he’s like, hey, baby, I got his drinks on the woman over in the corner, I’d be like, that’s…

So messed up. I would be like, but like I think she expects you to go home with her tonight I think some people to like some of our friends would be like, okay, throw throuple like she’s coming on with both of us Why is that becoming so okay? I okay we have to talk about this in a different episode the throubles and like the Relationships outside of just two people we sound so true. I don’t know. I don’t care I think everybody’s power to you do whatever the fuck you want to do. I I

I can’t imagine, maybe it’s just my level of jealousy. I can’t not imagine, like, being in a situation where I would be comfortable sharing my significant other with another person. No, and like, I would be so – But what if it was like two guys and you? I would, I honestly, all of it, I’m like, they, because I wouldn’t trust them to be able to handle it. I’d be like, you guys can’t handle this. Somebody’s gonna get upset.

I don’t trust this situation. You’re like, it’s gonna be me. Exactly. I don’t want to have to explain to each of you like why I like him better in this scenario than I like you in this scenario. Why I call you for advice, but I’d rather have sex with him. Like I do not want to be in that situation. That sounds terrible. No. And I need to know how people do it. If somebody could come and educate us on it.

Like it’s one of those situations like the winter always be a favorite like When they’re always be a favorite or isn’t war is it like children?

We’re, you love them in different ways. I love her when she does this. I love this about them and I love this about them. I don’t know. It’s not even comparable. There’s not a favorite. my God.

You could never I would I would never be in a throuple either because I’m jealous as hell. Yeah. And Adam, even though he’s cool, calm and collected, he is jealous as hell. He could not handle it. He couldn’t handle it. I know for sure. And I could not handle it. I don’t I don’t like that many people to be like, I can pick two. Like, well, you have trouble getting one.

Rude. But it’s true. Yeah, it’s true. Well, because I get too, I’m too annoyed too easily. Yeah. You’d be like, now I have two of you doing it wrong. Now it’s like two different people with two different things that they do all the time. Yeah. Yeah. That’s true. Yeah. How did we get on that conversation? I have no idea how we get on any conversation at this point. Yeah. I don’t know how we got on that. Where did we start? Dressing? Dressing. And then troubles. Troubles.

Well, so if you dress a certain way you might end up in a throuple my god, it’s so funny.

you know what when we live in the villages one day we’ll explore it then we’re making this podcast and we’re like 65 70 years old we’ll be like put that what is it like a loofah that they put on their golf I thought it was just a flag No, it’s like

Lufa. Who is telling you this? My coworkers. okay. I thought it was a flag. No, it’s a certain color. Lufa means like what they’re willing, like what they’re willing to explore. Okay. So when we’re like 70 years old, 65 maybe, and we’re like, Adam, I’m bored with that sex life. Adam’s on his way out. I also am going to get a southern accent in my old age. Adam, I’m bored with that sex life. Why did we move to Arizona? Why don’t we put a flag, that one’s Lufa.

He’s like gonna be like barely responsive. You’re like driving around in circles and like you’ve reckoned something because you can’t see. And then you’re like, but we’ll sexually explore. He’ll be like, yeah, baby, anything you want. And you’re like, yeah, I’m just on his way out. I’m having husband auditions. No, or like, or like, I’ll be on my way out and he’ll be, I’ll be like.

need to approve of who the next lover is like we need to have I will have needed to see her naked yeah she can’t look as good as me now and like I’ll just be like saggy and all I think this is a reality guys if this podcast goes that long I will give that update 100 % that’s great okay I think that’s with that I think we’re done okay we love you guys bye bye okay bye