Mixed Up With Me

Sallie (00:16)
Hello and welcome to Twin Study After Dark Friday Feedback. I’m your host, Sallie, not joined by my host Katie today. So we will get into that. But basically, Katie and I have been just racking our brains on how to best provide feedback to your comments and questions. And sometimes we forget before episodes get started because we are just so excited. So we thought the best way to do that would be having

our feedback and comments given back on a different day. So last week we launched an episode and it was on Taylor Swift. It was a bonus episode. We were so excited. Honestly, we did it more for us than anyone because we wanted to jump in and talk about her album, but it was really well received. So we were like, you know what? Fridays work for us. Let’s do Friday feedback. So here we are Friday feedback in it.

I’m your host Sallie some days. It will be just me some days It will be Katie and some days it might be both of us. It just depends Katie has more I would say a Everyday job a job that she goes to from like nine to five nine to six She would probably say it’s even more than that. So my Career and job is a little bit more Flexible, so it might be me a lot of the times

So if you like hearing me speak, feel free to tune in on Fridays. And if you don’t come back on Monday. So again, I’m Sallie. I wanted to just get into it. So our feedback that we received this week, well, like I said, last week we actually dropped two episodes. We dropped Taylor Swift’s episode on Friday. She came out with her new albums and Katie and I were just.

so in awe of her that we were like, we want to comment on these albums. Honestly, it was selfishly more for us because we wanted to talk about it, but honestly, I shouldn’t have doubted her for a second. I was thinking, you know, not everyone’s a Taylor Swift fan, so we’re not going to get a lot of listens on that. It’s more for us. But like, we got a ton of listens on that. So I should have just known.

that everybody was going to tune in for the Queen because they love her as much as we love her. So anyway, we got tons of feedback on that episode. I had asked everyone online on Instagram what their favorite songs were from the albums. So I’ll just tell you a little bit about the feedback we received. I want to say too that these really helped me even go into the album even deeper because some of these songs were not even on my list of favorites and I have

listen to them because of others saying that they’re their favorites. Okay, so when I asked people their favorite song, five repeatedly came up. So I just put down the top five. The first one was, Who’s Afraid of Little Old Me. Katie and I had like spoken on this one and I’m sorry, I’m gonna say like and any who, that’s just me. I’m trying to break that habit. But Who’s Afraid of Little Old Me, Katie and I had.

spoken on that one. That was also our number one. So it didn’t surprise me that a ton of people said that they liked it. I just think it’s a song that you can relate to so many things and it is honestly kind of empowering too. So I just love belting it at the top of my lungs and I’m not surprised others do as well. The second song, which I don’t remember, I don’t think that we brought it up and if we did maybe Katie brought it up. The second song people said was

But Daddy, I love him. And I have since listened to it on repeat because people were saying it was their favorite and I was like, you know what? I’m gonna just give it another go. It is amazing. Like that song is amazing. And honestly, I don’t even know if I should be commenting too much on the songs because I really wanna do a part two with Katie about the album.

So I don’t even think I’m gonna say my feedback on it honestly, because I have a lot to say about this song and I can say I definitely relate to it. That is part of T -Swiss mastery. We all can relate. So that was the second song people said. The third song that was brought up by several people was Thank You Amy. No surprise there. And I’m sure everybody by now have seen the headlines of Kim Kardashian saying she wants to put it.

at rest or they’re a feud at rest. But we talked about that last episode too, so definitely re -listen. The fourth one was one we didn’t even choose. And again, I have listened to it now and it is a fantastic song. Again, very relatable. But it’s called The Bolter. And then the fifth song, which again, I want to comment on all these, but I know I shouldn’t because we’re probably going to do another episode on them. But the fifth…

Fifth song that multiple people wrote in was Peter. So you know at the end of her album, she just like, it looked like it was like a bunch of names in a row and I honestly didn’t even think of the fact that Peter was like referring to like Peter Pan, like never wanting to grow up. But after re -listening to it, damn, that’s a good song. So thank you for your feedback. Like I said, we’ll probably do an episode where we actually dive into the songs we didn’t dive into yet because I think by now,

Everybody’s had a time to really listen to each song on the album like multiple times and we have a lot more to say but thank you Taylor Swift for just giving us life. I mean honestly depressing life like I’ve been every time I listen I honestly need to take breaks in between it because it kind of pulls me down. But I mean isn’t that good art? That is good art. It makes you feel the emotions. So I mean thank you Taylor Swift for.

putting that out there for us. How beautiful. What a good gift. Next, we moved on to Monday’s episode feedback. So Monday’s episode again was, it kind of talked about my book signing, the full moon that was on Tuesday. We asked, can you be friends with your ex? Because some people, we had heard some people that invite their exes to their own weddings. And then we talked about at the end, social media and embarrassment and like.

Facebook statuses and all that of the past. So somebody wrote in and they asked what my book was about. I know that I’ve probably shared it on a podcast episode already. So I don’t want to bore anybody that has already heard. But I’ll just briefly say my book is about my journey into motherhood. It was an untraditional route and something that I was not totally familiar with.

before we became part of the adoption community. That’s the reason I kind of was thinking I wanted to write a book. I never really wanted to write something that was strictly informational because honestly that’s kind of boring, but I didn’t really feel like I had a story to write either. After we adopted our twin daughters, they were the last children to add to our family. They’ve completed our family. But…

honestly just the miracles of their adoption journey. It was like a movie. So they gave me a story to share, honestly. So I told the story of us adding to our family through adoption and pregnancy. I have always been one to struggle with getting pregnant and I can definitely relate to some people who go through that. But I also wanted it to be kind of showing the true sides of adoption.

When we went through the journey, there were just so many people giving their opinions about things and honestly, not educated opinions. It wasn’t like the people that were telling us things were people that had gone through the process. And I also constantly get reached out to by people that are looking into it or want to look into it, but they just feel like it’s just a big hurdle and just too like…

almost too grandiose to even touch. Like they just don’t even think that they can handle it. And I just, I wanted to show people like we were just a normal family. We didn’t have millions of dollars in savings. We didn’t know much about the process before we went into it. But now thankfully just we feel like experts because it has worked out for us.

several times over, it has not worked out for us before too. So it’s a story of the ups and downs of our journey and honestly one full of miracles and I’m just so blessed that I get to say that I have that story to tell and I hope it resonates with somebody out there and thank you for asking what it’s about. But yeah, so I just put it out there for my family, for anyone who’s searching because I know I was.

desperately searching for something like that when we were looking into it and I hope it can be a help to somebody or even just to somebody who’s wondering if miracles are even possible because I don’t think I really knew the magnitude of like God or Manifestation or prayer until I we added to our family So thank you for asking and if you want to know more then definitely do an episode on that I love to talk about adoption. I love the

to talk about infertility. I love to talk about all of those things. That’s why I wrote a book. Because again, I just don’t think it’s talked about enough. And I think when you don’t talk about a subject, it becomes scary or seems out of reach. And that’s just not the truth. Okay, so yes, that’s my answer. So, oh, the second thing we brought up that episode was the full moon. So we talked about our rituals around the full moon.

Katie and I both use the full moon kind of to release the stresses or something that we’re like really that’s heavy on our hearts. And somebody wrote in and said that they actually do a ritual that includes moon water. And I had to ask them everything about this because I had kind of heard about moon water, but I didn’t really know like what you do with it. So this person,

told me her whole ritual. So she basically sets water out under the full moon on a full moon night. And she sets it out while she kind of gives an intention. So she thinks about what she wants this water to do for her. She said that she wants had a rash on her face. So she knew she was going to wash her face with the moon water. And so she kind of sets that intention when she puts it out. If she wants financial stability or…

riches to come or something like that, she sets that intention. And she said she’s done it a million times. And she said the reason she keeps doing it is because she did apply it, the moon water to her face with the rash and it went away. When she did the financial intention, she drank the moon water the next day. And she said like two weeks later, she had just a financial surprise that worked in her benefit. And now she’s under the impression she’s like, it works. So like, why would I stop?

And honestly, that’s how I feel about manifestation on the new moons. Like I’m like, it worked when I asked for two babies. So like, I don’t care if this is real or not, it worked. So I’m going to keep going with it. So I really appreciated her discussing with me how she uses it. Basically I tried it. So I did it this time and she had told me just set it out under the full moon. And I thought this was interesting and I’d love other thoughts, but.

I always thought of the full moon as releasing things, but she said set it out with an intention. So that’s kind of like calling things in. So that’s interesting. I suppose you could phrase it like in a release way, like if you’re doing it for finances, you could say like, I’m letting go of my financial stress and worry and maybe set the moon water out and then ask for like, I guess finances to come into you. I don’t know.

She sets like a positive intention, something that she desperately wants. So yeah, Adam, my husband and I did it and we just put like jars of water out with like lids so that bugs didn’t get in. But we made sure that they were see -through because we’re like, I feel like the water needs to see the moon, right? The moon needs to see the water. And the next day we…

chugged it, honestly. So I’ll let you know if it works, but I’m like, I’m gonna take anything people give me as something that works. I will try it. So I had Suzy, my daughter drinks some, Scott, my son drinks some, and Adam and I drank it in the morning, and I’m so interested to see if I’ll have something to share with you. And I’ll share what my intentions were if it does work.

Um, but yeah, so moon water. Awesome. Why not? Right? Um, okay. So then our topic for last episode was friends with exes. Katie and I were both in agreeance. We don’t think you can be friends with an ex. Like even Katie had a friend that she said was friends with multiple exes and we were just like, she’s like a magician. Like that’s not normal. Or like, honestly, I don’t even know if that’s healthy.

to be honest, it’s crazy. That feels crazy to me. But I did have someone reach out to me and it’s a friend of mine and I get the situation. So I just want to throw out that this is a type that, cause I asked people, I’m like, does anyone have friends that are exes? Please write in. And she said, she does have a friend with an ex and get this, she invited him to her wedding. So her circumstance was that they were,

They dated in like middle school, high school, super, super immature, like a very, you know, puppy love type of romance. And the second stipulation, which I think is key, is they never saw each other naked. So I’m like, I think that makes a big difference, honestly. Like she was like, he never saw me naked, so it wasn’t like awkward in that way. And honestly, I feel like that kind of does make a difference because…

then her husband doesn’t have anyone, like he doesn’t need to be jealous. It’s not like this guy has like done a million things with her or anything and now he’s still around. So I think that actually does make a difference. So I suppose my mind is coming to the conclusion, like maybe if it was like a really long time ago or young puppy love, or you didn’t see each other naked. Although I would venture to say like if you didn’t see each other naked and like there was still chemistry there, like,

I don’t know whether that be like something in the words like unfinished business because I’ve definitely had that. Like definitely had that where in college I had, I was dating somebody and my ex from high school, we had never like hooked up, hooked up. I’ll put it that way. And it felt like unfinished business. So I feel like it was always going to happen eventually. I don’t know. So it just depends. It depends, I guess on the situation. I will tell you.

The person who wrote in is very much in love with her husband, has an incredible healthy relationship, and somehow she invited her ex to her wedding. So under those circumstances, I suppose it can be true. It must be. Oh, another thing I wanted to note from last episode was my use of the words physical activity. So I referred to Katie having physical activity with someone.

And all I have to say about that is I meant hooking up. People were like laughing hysterically because they were just like, I don’t know what you actually meant by that. And what I meant was they were hooking up. I’ll put it that way. I don’t want to like lay out every detail, but physical activity was a poor choice of words because they weren’t like weightlifting together, but they were hooking up with each other. I just you will learn. I can’t think of words sometimes fast.

And I think that’s why I use a lot of filler words too. So they were hooking up. Okay. Okay, last thing. So embarrassing feedback about Facebook. I wish I could reread my statuses. I mean, I don’t actually. No, I probably don’t need to. But I can kind of remember what they were about. I said they were probably about an ex from college.

But when I was referring to those days, I said, oh, college, like 10 years ago. And I was recently counting how many years Katie has lived in Florida, and it has been since college. And that was 17 years ago. So I’m just really old. I was like, I couldn’t believe it. So I graduated college. Well, Katie did. Well, OK.

I graduated college in 2011. Katie graduated, she went one year extra, so in 2012. We started college in 2007. So that’s been 17 years. So when I refer to colleges 10 years ago, like that’s, my mind is blown. Like, wow, that’s crazy. But I do think if I look back on those days, I really think we were kids and I just, you know, I feel like a grownup now. So.

I mean, it feels like it’s been that long, but also, I guess, like, not really. I didn’t really understand it’s been 17 years. Like, that’s crazy. So those Facebook posts were just from a mere little child who didn’t even know herself, so nothing serious. Just ignore them. Ignore the person I was back then. Honestly, I was a little crazy. But, you know, adolescent brains, right? Taylor Swift gets it.

So anyway, that’s the feedback we had. I wrote it all down and…

I got it all done. So I don’t know how this will go every week. Like I said, it might be me next week again. It might be Katie. These are shorter episodes. Of course, if you have more feedback, they’ll be a little bit longer. But we love you guys. Please tune in for this week’s twin study that will land on Monday. I’m so excited for you guys to hear what Katie and I have to debate. And thank you for joining us for Friday Feedback. Love you. Bye.